Dealing with anger differently

Content

Preface

Introduction

1. The Four Forms of Anger

2. Dealing with your angry self

Causes of Anger

Getting to know your anger
Tip 1. Research your experience
Tip 2. Be open to the emotional layers beneath your anger
Tip 3. Pay attention to your needs
Tip 4. See your law book for what it is

Find peace in your anger
Tip 1. Accept what you can't change
Tip 2. Heal the pain of 'not being seen'
Tip 3. Shared humanity as a healing connection
Tip 4. Attention to the good

Bringing kindness into your anger
Tip 1. Take radical responsibility
Tip 2. Find your resting point
Tip 3. Take a SLOW breathing room
Tip 4. Focus on your values
Tip 5. Accept your imperfection
Tip 6. Train your empathy
Tip 7. Continue to practice your kindness

3. Dealing with the angry other

When someone is mad at you
Tip 1. Find your true strength
Tip 2. Determine your own game rules
Tip 3. Don't take it personally
Tip 4. Stay open and connected

The art of nonviolent listening
Tip 1. Decide to just listen
Tip 2. Accept your imperfection
Tip 3. Don't make assumptions
Tip 4. Listen to needs

What about aggression?
Tip 1. Indicate your limit
Tip 2. Use the green and red zone
Tip 3. Don't make a decision under emotional pressure
Tip 4. Seek mediation if necessary

What about passive aggression?
Tip 1. Be honest with yourself
Tip 2. Communicate
Tip 3. Practice with self-compassion and compassion
Tip 4. Connect with people

4. Dealing with an Angry We

Anger at (v) divorce
Tip 1. Acknowledge your anger
Tip 2. See your sadness
Tip 3. See the good
Tip 4. Choose benevolence

Parenting without anger
Tip 1. Never be angry for more than a minute
Tip 2. Choose love
Tip 3. Respect your child's dignity
Tip 4. Never blame your child
Tip 5. Give space to a child's world
Tip 6. Give your child admiring attention
Tip 7. Restore your love if necessary

Mildness in Conflict
Tip 1. Tune in to a mild connection
Tip 2. Start with an intention of peace
Tip 3. Confront with mildness
Tip 4. Evaluate compassionately

Forgiveness
Tip 1. Know what forgiveness is
Tip 2. Know what forgiveness is not
Tip 3. Know what forgiveness requires
Tip 4. Give it time

2019. A home jack

Shared joy

Epilogue

Addendum
Addendum 1. Anger and underlying emotions
Addendum 2. Needs and Values
Addendum 3. The Steps of Nonviolent Communication
Addendum 4: The Meditation Downloads

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