Growing in (self) love
Leni Cellini
Love is the most beautiful thing there is. At the same time, it is also the hardest thing there is. The person we care about the most is often the one who can touch us the most.In die zin kunnen relaties een rijke voedingsbodem zijn voor onze beoefening. Om te groeien in compassie en (zelf)liefde. We kunnen relaties zien als een spiegel die ons toont waar onze diepste kwetsuren zitten. Waar we nog werk te doen hebben. Als we tenminste bereid zijn om de weg naar binnen te gaan.Deze lezing staat in het teken van het thema ‘Relaties’.Zie ook: 30NOW.nl/boeddhistiek-sound.
Hello Leni, thank you for your reading.
Quickly being with others, so moving away from myself, is so often present with me. I lack some basic feeling within myself, I have no self-confidence at all.
I didn't get enough attention in my youth, my mother told me this on her deathbed, I didn't want to believe it at the time, but I am thinking along those lines. Disabled brother required a lot of attention and care in the family.
I experience little self-love, which does not make life easy.
My question to you is, could this be the cause of my problem of experiencing little/no self-love and how can I improve this?
With kind regards.
Dear Anna, thank you for your honest sharing. It is a beautiful desire to want to develop more self-love. That alone is self-love: the desire to love yourself more. How I practice with it is to learn to love and embrace the part of myself that does not feel loved (also due to loss in my youth). I call that my inner child. The young part of myself that suffered so much in the past and now demands my attention and love. For me, that is an important step in self-love, to recognize that part of myself and take care of it. I once gave a lecture about this: Practicing with your inner child. You can find it here: https://www.30now.nl/ Looking back/live-lectures/62199/ I have also guided meditations on this theme several times. I hope this will support you on your path. You are also always welcome for an individual one... Read more »